In love with Mr.Maybe

How often do you fall in love? The answer is ‘Just once’ for 50% of youngsters, until they get dumped, or decide to dump their partner. The other 50% include those happily in love couples who go to an extent to do anything & everything for each other, and those who think their partner is doing everything that they can for them. The latter fall into the category of dating Mr/Ms. Maybe’s.

Let’s just talk about Mr. Maybe’s today. So there is this guy (lets name him Mr.Maybe) who is sweet, charming, smart and ambitious. He does everything possible for you to make you fall in love with him, & you do. And in the course of your relationship you realize you are missing something, something big, something small, & he is not what you have wanted to have. But then you decide to convince yourself that he loves you and that he is doing his best to keep you. You keep giving yourself excuses time and again, until there comes a point where you can’t take any more of it & lo! You finally decide to let go of your Mr. Maybe.

Let’s check why we’ve named him Mr. Maybe.

• You fall sick & you tell him about it, & ‘Maybe’ he is too busy with something so important that he forgets to ask you about your health.
• ‘Maybe’ he is too busy at work & forgets to call you back.
• He ‘Maybe’ listening to you when you talk about a personal issue & it just got erased off his memory when you tried to recall.
• ‘Maybe’ you talk too much & it’s difficult for him to remember.
• ‘Maybe’ he is getting laid off at work & he is just too stressed to make an effort.
• ‘Maybe’ he is bad at remembering dates & hence forgot your birthday.
• ‘Maybe’ he is attending your friend’s marriage with you & his vehicle breaks down the same morning.
• ‘Maybe’ he really cares for you & is bad at showing it.
• ‘Maybe’ you support his dreams and ambitions & he thinks yours are not worth a thought.
• ‘Maybe’ he doesn’t know how to love you the way you do.
• ‘Maybe’ his work life is so busy that he can’t find time to text you.
• ‘Maybe’ he dint really like your status or profile picture & hence dint react.
• ‘Maybe’ he has his family on his social networking sites & hence decides to keep his status as single.
• ‘Maybe’ the girl that he talks to everyday is just a friend.
• ‘Maybe’ he is busy over the weekend with his friends & family.
• ‘Maybe’ he dint want to let go off your hand because people were watching.
• ‘Maybe’ he loves you & not your money.
• ‘Maybe’ he really needs you but he is not ready to be emotionally available.
•  ‘Maybe’ he is being busy with something & not really cheating on you.
• ‘Maybe’ he is focused on his career & doesn’t want this relationship of yours to distract him.
• ‘Maybe’ he needs space & hence goes without talking to you for an entire day.
• ‘Maybe’ he wants to introduce you to his family but he is not finding the right time to.
• ‘Maybe’ he wants you to buy that dress you like for your birthday but he doesn’t have money to.
• ‘Maybe’ he is doing everything for you & you think you deserve better.

Ah! The list of maybe’s can go on forever. But these are just a few examples that we can all relate to. A reason to why people say ‘love is blind’ is when they see people settling down for these ‘maybe’s’ when they deserve much better. Maybe women should stop lying to themselves.

Why opt for a Mr. Maybe when we can find a guy much better who does not come with the baggage of these Maybe’s - someone who really has time for us, someone who knows to show his love, someone who makes us a priority, someone who can confess to the world that he has a girl, someone who would be loyal to us, someone who wants to spend the rest of his life with us and most importantly, someone who really LOVES us.

I would say care until you no longer can and then move on. Mature men know how to manage their time, and make time for the people in their lives. They know how to balance work and life. If you feel that he is making more excuses than reasons to spend time with you, then move on. I know it is difficult but it will save you from a lot of heartache. So go talk to him, & tell him that ‘maybe’ you guys should just move on!